30 days of Encouraging Your Husband Series | Days 1-3

 Ladies, Valentine's Day is quickly approaching.  How would you say your love life is doing?  I know that seems like a prying question, but if I were to ask you how your marriage is doing, what would you say? 

As the day draws near for us to celebrate our love for our husbands, let's think about how we can really show them how deeply we care for them.  Let's think about how to do that starting today, not just on February 14th. 

I have a great book to help us do that.  And the BEST news is, you don't even have to buy the book in order to read it.  It is online for free! 

 

This is what I have.  It's the journal edition of the 30 day challenge.  It lists each daily challenge and then has a blank lined page after it to write about how the challenge went for you that day.  

Here is your virtual copy of the book! 

If you decide that this is something worthwhile for you and your man, go through these 30 days as a kind of experiment to see what happens in your relationship.

I have already begun this journey and am going to share the results with you.

What I will do is take 3 days at a time, tell you what the challenge was and how they went over for me.  Since there are thirty days in the challenge, you will see ten installments of my progress.  

Without further ado, here are my week one results:

Day 1

Challenge:  Don't say anything negative to or about your husband - to him or to anyone else.  

Say something you admire about your husband - to him and to someone else.

Action:  I decided to make a list of what I appreciate about my husband.  I came up with about 15 items.  I took these and wrote each one on a sticky note with a sharpie marker and hung them all over the mirror above our dresser in the bedroom.  

Results:  He loved them.  A few days later I was cleaning and asked him if he wanted me to take them down.  He said no, that he liked them there and they have remained there ever since.  I love the fact that every time he walks into our bedroom he is reminded of how I feel about him.

Day 2

Challenge:  Don't say anything negative to or about your husband - to him or to anyone else.  

Think of the ways your husband serves you and your family.  Buy him a little gift that has to do with how he serves your family.  If you can't think of one, just a small gift that he would like to let him know you were thinking about him.

Action:   Didn't buy a gift, but made him some chocolate covered strawberries and set them in the shape of a heart on counter. Put the words WE then the heart of berries, then YOU there for him to find. Didn't see his reaction because I had to run out to tutor.  I thanked him for being so cool about watching the girls as I go out for an hour here and there to tutor.

Results:  That evening he seemed really attentive, loving, and generally interested in me.  We had a good conversation that went beyond the daily stuff and some great snuggle time.

Day 3

Challenge:  Don't say anything negative to or about your husband - to him or to anyone else.  

Let your husband know how much you appreciate his help and the ways in which he takes initiative in your home.  Thank him for the times that he has been both tough and tender. 

Action:   Thanked him for his help with the girls earlier that day.

Results:  I've decided to intentionally work on listening to him more carefully when he talks. Usually I'm multitasking and I know that sends the message that I don't care. 

Stay tuned for days 4, 5, and 6 of the challenge tomorrow.  

And, hey, between you and me, I'm on day 20 of the challenge now, and he doesn't know I'm doing it.  So if you know Jesse in real life, please DON'T ask him about this.  If he knows, then results will be tainted / ruined / epic fail.  So thanks.  

See you tomorrow!